October 29, 2009 at 10:10 pm (Blogroll, Health and Wellness, Peace, alternative lifestyle, compassion, day to day, death, family, happiness, home, mindfulness, pain, parents, people, positive thinking, relationships, self awareness, self image, self- esteem, simple living, simplify, suffering, transition)
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As the third month of my papi’s death is right around the corner, I begin to think of his funeral. The last couple of months I have thought about different things, and struggled to get through so much. Yet today I found myself thinking of his funeral.
I remember the day of his wake we came in early. My two sister’s and I. I walked in and cried when I saw him laying alone, cold in his casket. There was a moment when my two sister’s who were there walked out and I found myself standing there alone. I looked at him and I remember thinking this is what grief feels like. Loving someone so much, yet having to let them go. Having to let so many pieces of them go. My life would never be the same.
Moments later friendly face after friendly face poured into the room. They smiled, they murmered encouraging words, they shared memories, they cried with me, they held me, and I remember thinking before all these people poured into the room, as I stood there alone near my papi, “how the hell am I going to get through this.” Yet with every person that came and went I felt at ease. There were moments where I was even able to smile and encourage my sister’s, my mom, and others who loved my papi. I remember thinking and feeling so much gratitude for friends, and so blessed for family. It was their love and their support that helped get me through this.
What I realized is that there is nothing is this world like a true friend. There is nothing like having a good loving family to hold you and support you when life tries to knock you down.
All my family and friends still continue to help me get through the death of my papi and other life’s obstacles.
I like this line from a Paul McCarthy song ” I get by with a little help from my friends.” Be good to your friends.
Love, peace and happiness to all who enter here.
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October 26, 2009 at 4:26 am (Blogroll, Health and Wellness, alternative lifestyle, compassion, day to day, family, happiness, home, life, mindfulness, people, positive thinking, relationships, self awareness, self image, self- esteem, simple living, simplify, suffering)
Tags: compassion, day to day, family, friends, happiness, Health, home, humanity, life, love, mindfulness, relationships, self awareness, self- esteem
Some people think that in order for life to be good they have to avoid pain, the danger with that is people become so good at avoiding pain that people learn not to feel anything at all. Not joy, not love, not happiness, or hope. People become in a sense emotionally anesthetized. Living lives with a narrow emotional range, just mostly a perpetual feeling of monotony, one grey day after another. People become so good at mastering detachment that nothing will reach them emotionally. At times when I talk to people I find that one thing that drains so much of them is a sense of meaning from their lives and boredom. So many people find their jobs boring, relationships, friendships, and hobbies all boring. In a pathetic desperation they change jobs, breakup with a partner, become distant from friends, and look at other outlets to lift their lives above the level of mundane. Some people even turn to self-destructive things like drugs. They think that the fault is in what they are doing and who they are doing it with. While sometimes a change is called for, more times than not the problem is in themselves. These people I have found are so numb that they walk through life never getting hurt, or feeling much at all for anything and anyone, yet wonder why they feel so numb. Some of these people even think it is a good thing to feel like this. To be authentic, and human these people need to take off the armor they go around wearing to keep the world from hurting them, or feeling anything. They have to be prepared to accept pain, or how can they expect to feel joy, happiness, hope or love. All of us need to make room in our souls to feel. Yes the world may break our hearts but we as humans can survive.
Love, peace, and happiness.
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October 23, 2009 at 11:58 am (Blogroll, Health and Wellness, Peace, alternative lifestyle, compassion, day to day, family, happiness, home, life, mindfulness, people, positive thinking, relationships, self awareness, self image, self- esteem, simple living, simplify, transition)
Tags: compassion, day to day, family, friends, happiness, home, life, relationships, self awareness, self help, self- esteem
At times I see people as not wanting to open up their hearts and minds to other people because it triggers confusion that they do not feel brave enough to deal with. When we can look clearly and compassionately at ourselves we feel confident and fearless about looking into someone else eyes. In doing this we not only benefit but we begin to open up to others simultaneously. The more we can relate to others the more we discover things about ourselves. Taking a direct approach can be hard, it can be helpful, but painful too. To relate to others in a compassionate way can be a challange to most. Really communicating, and being there for someone else means not shutting down on that person, which means not shutting down on oursleves. We can not push what we feel away. Accepting ourselves, means accepting things that we do not like about ourselves and things we do not like about other people. But practicing compassion is an action that will allow us to be there for other people without pulling back. I find at times when I am truly in a moment where I am feeling compassionate I do not look at things as right or wrong good or bad. I am just in that moment. I open myself up to the unknown and while that scares me I feel too a sense of, what is to be will be. Sure my heart and my emotions are vulnerable but it does not matter. I feel alive and better. My own issues that come up are dealt with too. I begin to grow and allow myself to have open relationships with others. Relationships that are sincere, kind, loving, open, and honest. I accept others and accept myself.
Peace, love and happiness…
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