When King Lear dies in act 5 of Shakespeare’s tragedy he writes, “he dies”. That is all nothing more. No fanfare, no metaphor, no brilliant final words. The culmination of the most influential work of dramatic literature is “he dies.” It takes Shakespeare, a genius to come up with “he dies”, and yet reading those words for the first time I found myself overwhelmed with dysphoria. I know it is only natural to be sad but not because of the words “he dies”, but because of the life we saw prior to the words. My father’s life ended with a simple and modest, “he died.” Life is a special occasion rise to it. Peace and love.

So I had my mom over the other night for dinner and she was sharing with me how she missed my papi more than she could put into words, I tried the best that I could to understand her. I mean the relationship that I shared with my papi does not and will never compare to the one she shared with him. I talked to her about how I felt she in turn talked about what she thinks about daily. How she loved him so much. It was at times heartbreaking to see her and hear her talk about the love she misses so much. I started to think after she left why love is like this. How can you love someone so much, that your very life is so altered after they are gone. I found some quotes on love after she left. I read them and thought about them. It is so mind blowing all the different feelings, emotions, and thoughts that so many different people have on love. I would like to share some of the quotes…

“Love me when I least deserve it because that is when I really need it” – Swedish proverb
“Whoever loves becomes humble those who love have, so to speak pawned a part of their narcissism” -Sigmund Frued
“There is no remedy to love but to love more” – Henry David thoreau
“A heart that loves is always young” -Greek poverb
“The more I give to thee the more I have, for both are infinite” – William Shakespeare
“Sometimes you put walls up not to keep people out but to see who cares enough to break them down” -anonymous
“There is no substitute for great love who says no matter what is wrong with you, you’re welcomed at this table” -Tom Hanks
“Everything is clearer when your in love” – John Lennon
“I like to think that love is a reciprocol thing,that it can’t really be felt truly by one” -Seasn Penn
“The greater your capacity to love the greater your capacity to feel the pain” -Jennifer Anniston
“There is definitly a dangerous feeling when you are in love it is giving your heart to someone else and knowing that they have some control over your feelings. I know for me who tries to be guarded that is a scary thing” -(me) Elizabeth Rangel

So whatever quote you can relate to, know this, it is greater to love and feel the pains loving someone so much can bring, then never know the feeling at all. Peace and love…

The connection we make with others, both superficial and profound, most often begins with the spoken word. We use words to convey what we think, and we use words to express how we feel. When we are trying to deepen our connections or resovle differences we typically use the power of the spoken or written word. More often than not what we say and how we say it determines the quality of any relationship.

If there is one thing that any one of us could do that would automatically improve the quality of our relationships, it would be to become more conscious of what we say and how we say it. All of our relatiosnhips would be changed and transformed when we change and transform ourselves.

An important reason for staying conscious in our speech is to avoid later regrets. We can use words skilfully or unconsciously. We can use words to heal or to hurt. Our words can help us fulfill our highest intentions. I think it would really help all of us if, before we speak, we could stop just for a momment to make certain that what we are about to say accurately reflects our hearts intentions.

There is nothing more frustrating to me than having a conversation with someone and having to explain over and over how I feel. When you speak from your heart that is your truth. When the reciever does not listen, does not validate you well then that person is not worthly of your truth or your words. Easier said than done, but that is a change that I have promised myself to keep. No more waisting my energy and time on these people.

Peace and love…